When it comes to adoption and summer hosting there are always the children that are picked last (or never picked at all). Sadly those children tend to always be the boys, especially the older boys. It seems that horror stories are all you hear. So these boys continue to wait and get older.
Like many families, when we adopted, we adopted a girl.
We used to be leery of the boys and figured a girl would fit better in our family. However when we decided to host an orphan this summer we figured we would give a boy a try. We didn't know how it would turn out. We were a bit unsure. Would this boy listen? be rebellious? Be hard? Would he even want to engage in activities with our family? Would he be unmanageable? At age 10 he is already well in the 'older child' range and we were scared about what we had gotten ourselves into.
Turned out our fears were unfounded! After he arrived we looked at our 'older boy' and we just saw a normal little boy. I'm not sure how we were ever scared of him. He brings us so much joy. We have been blessed by him.
The truth became clear. The truth told us that there was nothing to be scared about.
We have been blown away. The things we have learned have changed us forever. Older boys are not scary. There is so much to them, so many good things.
1) They are never to old for affection.
Older boys are cool (at least they like to act cool) but despite the rolled eyes they are secretly thrilled with hugs and kisses. You are never to old for love.
2) Daily visits to the pool are the highlight of each day.
Boys are pretty simple. Teach them to swim and give them a chance to use those skills, and they are perfectly happy. Always looking at the clock to see if it is time to swim. Overcome with excitement when you tell them YES now we can go.
3) Music never gets boring.
It doesn't matter if it is playing the piano or listening to light up toys.
4) Big brothers are the coolest thing ever.
Having a big brother figure in your life is just right.
5) Boating is the best adventure.
Boys love adventure.
6) Playing games will never get boring.
Card games or board games. Literally hours of entertainment can be found there.
7) Dressing up is the silliest thing ever.
His favorite is a big floppy hat and a glittery jacket.
8) Having your own bike and the freedom to ride it is the best.
Riding back and forth behind the house. For hours.
9) Finding an old doll house is thrilling.
He came running up the stairs the other day. Grabbing my hand and pulling me in the direction he had just came from. In the closet he had found our old doll house. He was so excited and kept saying "Doma, doma!/Home, home!" He proceeded to play with it the rest of the morning by himself.
10) Merry go rounds and trains at the zoo are what little boys are made for.
The smile says it all. When he finally got his turn it was like the world was smiling down on him.
11) Playing with stuffed animals with a little sister is still fun.
If you have ever considered adoption or hosting, please consider the boys.
They really are not that scary.