Jul 14, 2013

Why we are praying for an adoptive family for our host child

Everyone knows that orphans exist.  They are out there in the far corners of the world.  Distant  from our day to day lives. Most people don't give the orphan population a second thought.  It just isn't something we encounter here in North America. 

However sometimes you find yourself face-to-face with a child. A child who just so happens to have the title 'orphan'. And even if the whole orphan population doesn't become real to you, a small part of it is suddenly  very, very real.
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The fact is that the above boy is an orphan.  [all though I'v got to say, when you look at him you don't see 'orphan'.  He is seriously just a sweet, funny and typical 10 year old boy!]  Legally free for adoption and growing up in an orphanage in Ukraine.  He is safely in our care for the summer.  Enjoy the love and safety and all the little things a family brings. But we can't keep him here.  He has to go back to his orphanage at the end of the summer.

His orphanage has about 100 children between the ages of 7 and 16.  Compared to other orphanages in his region it is a very poor orphanage.  Earlier in the year when someone visited the orphanage the director begged for shoes for the children.

If children are not adopted from this (and others like it) orphanage they age out between the ages of 16 and 18.  They can no longer live at the orphanage and must find a way to make a life for themselves on their own. Children are not made to grow up in orphanages, their brains literally are not made for it.  I don't know what would be scarier than having to face life without the love and support of a family. What scares me are the statistics for the children who never are chosen for adoption.

Without intervention, upon leaving the orphanage... 
-60% of girls will end up in prostitution 
-70% of boys will be on the streets or in jail 
-15% will commit suicide within the first two years on their own. 
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This is the life we have to send this boy back to.  This funny, clever, adorable, impressionable, stubborn boy. He has to go back.

However there is hope for him, He is free for adoption.  An adoptive family for Ruslan is something we are praying for.  He has so much potential.  He is ready for a family. We are praying for a family to say yes to him, to bring him into their home permanently. As hard as an international adoption may sound, I believe with my whole heart that Ruslan is more than worth it.  So we are praying and believing for a family.

“My friends, adoption is redemption. It’s costly, exhausting, expensive, and outrageous. Buying back lives costs so much. When God set out to redeem us, it killed Him.” 
– Derek Loux

If you know anyone looking into adoption, if you have ever thought about adoption, please pray if maybe God is leading you to be Ruslan's forever family.  He deserves it.

Requirements to adopt from Ukraine
-Married couples only.
-No family size restrictions.
-Adoptive parents must be at least 15 years older than the child.
-No severe past health history, especially when it comes to mental health.
-One or two trips in Ukraine to finish the adoption process (can be up to 6 weeks in country to finish court and the final paperwork.).  This may sound overwhelming but it actually is very do able and there are many options on how to break up the trips.  If you want to talk more about the in country process just ask!


  1. I'll join you in praying Joanna, I'm so hoping it works out for us to host a child next year!!

  2. Some people who run a blog called "The Adoption Spotlight" have highlighted your blog in their comments. They hate it that people pre-select children from Ukraine. It is true that Ukraine doesn't allow people to pre-select children, yet that only means that parents don't have legal rights to a child until the adoption is final. They can't get that through their heads, and have sent letters to Ukraine and to USCIS in order to try to stop people's adoptions. These people spend a lot of time trolling blogs.


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